tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8232920049546930538.post9156952726173657858..comments2023-05-23T06:51:58.372-07:00Comments on Destroy To Rebuild: These Girls Have A PointMaSirhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17112263977105108306noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8232920049546930538.post-58936509624392890592010-02-27T13:20:43.136-08:002010-02-27T13:20:43.136-08:00There are certain aspects that we have more contro...There are certain aspects that we have more control and responsibility over when it comes to defining our image. When it comes to the medias portrayal of Asians, it is still requires a concerted "work in progress" effort. <br /><br />I've argued your side too Anonymous, but the critics such as <a href="http://masirjones.blogspot.com/2010/01/are-asian-women-easy-for-non-asian-men.html?showComment=1263092827439#c4849311894370801494" rel="nofollow">jstele</a> also have some valid points which I am not going to marginalize and run away from. I think if every one of us American-Asian men, starting with ME, did something to combat the stereotypes we encounter so often, the outlook toward us from mainstream America would inevitably change. <br /><br />Don't get me wrong. I'm not arguing that we should simply, "get over it" either, but if we continue to focus on just one aspect of the problem, American-Asian men may end up stuck in a rut with an half-ass solution.MaSirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17112263977105108306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8232920049546930538.post-60199250518047608852010-02-27T07:14:21.661-08:002010-02-27T07:14:21.661-08:00Anonymous,
You bring up some valid points here, a...Anonymous,<br /><br />You bring up some valid points here, and I agree with you that it is really difficult to undo decades of mistreatment and continual exposure to racism and negative stereotypes.<br /><br />However, during a 4 month period of my life (October 2007 - January 2008), I was able to drastically improve my romance life in several ways. These events eventually led up to meeting a hot girl in a nightclub who is now my girlfriend and we're happy together :) During this 4 month period, which was full of all kinds of random hookups with girls and other romantic adventures, there was no decrease in either negative mainstream media stereotypes, nor was there any decrease in the number of women who "will not date Asian men because of their race." So, the only reasonable explanation I could come up with is that I am the part of the equation that needed to change. So I did.<br /><br />-WilliamWilliamhttp://www.betterasianman.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8232920049546930538.post-21640962233475417992010-02-27T05:34:06.441-08:002010-02-27T05:34:06.441-08:00First of all, I think it's important to rememb...First of all, I think it's important to remember that there is still a significant number of women who believe Asian guys are inferior. These women will not date Asian men because of their race.<br />Having said that I do believe there are a significant amount of Asian men who are shy. <br /><br />But does anyone actually believe this trait is biological or part of Asian culture? I think Asian-American men's shyness is a result of how America treats Asian men.<br /><br />One last thing. I'm sick and tired of people saying that Asian men should just "get over it." I think most of us can agree that it would be beneficial if Asian men overcame this; however, decades of mistreatment cannot easily nor quickly be undone. Several studies have shown that stereotypes have extremely harmful effects on minority and female groups.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8232920049546930538.post-17510517761641911302010-02-21T21:43:48.301-08:002010-02-21T21:43:48.301-08:00@ James:
"But nice guys don't get laid. ...@ James:<br /><br />"But nice guys don't get laid. They just get married."<br /><br />Funny but true. Nothing wrong with marriage but some of us would like to experience dating other women before we give our heart and soul to one woman. I believe a number of women have the same mentality these days.MaSirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17112263977105108306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8232920049546930538.post-27020673756806558722010-02-21T17:53:09.066-08:002010-02-21T17:53:09.066-08:00The truth hurts. This video should serve as a wak...The truth hurts. This video should serve as a wake up call to Asian men to be quit being wallflowers.<br /><br />I wanted to connect this to a comment Invasian posted on the previous blog entry on dating preferences:<br /><br /><i>Asian men had the 2nd best matching scores with women overall (and also 2nd best with white women) behind white males. (So, if stereotypes and other issues weren't an issue, Asian men "should" be 2nd more desirable among all men)</i><br /><br />Interesting stat. I think Asian American men make great husbands. They're nice and stable. Which would explain why they would be 2nd in compatibility to most women.<br /><br />But nice guys don't get laid. They just get married.<br /><br />When it comes to dating and enjoying the company of many women, it's a matter of constantly improving your presentation: dressing well, confident and relaxed body language, and being willing to flirt and joke with a woman without being giving a shit about her judging you.<br /><br />I think all guys get too hung up on results as opposed to honing their <a href="http://alpha-asian.blogspot.com/2008/10/free-your-mind.html" rel="nofollow">game.</a>Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13649094298355514533noreply@blogger.com