Swizz Beatz to Bring K-Pop to America?

Word has it that Swizz Beatz is trying to bring K-Pop over to the states. I think he's trying to be Teddy Riley and Will.I.Am to the punch. He might be a little late but K-Pop songs still aren't in rotation on American radio stations or clubs. Once that happens, open up the flood gates!

“Bridging the gaps with collaborations can be the start of a global phenomenon. We’ve got this group called Big Bang, they dropped a song called 'Blue,' and I’m like, everybody should know about that,” he continued. “So how do you keep communication going? When you’re a big artist in the states, they roll out the red carpets for you, and I don’t feel that love for artists from other countries when they come here. I’m like, wait a minute, that’s not fair. Why can’t they get some respect?"

The thing I like about Sweezy is that he makes some monster club tracks and has an appreciation for the K-Pop scene as an artist. He also probably feels that American artists are always on a high horse of getting treated like kings and queens on the red carpet but when an artist from Asia comes over to the states, they're not reciprocated with the same treatment.

It's not surprising however. America has the largest market outside of Japan when it comes to music. However, as Sweezy commented that doesn't mean we shouldn't know about groups like Big Bang droppin' Blue when they're such a global phenomenon. Heck, they even beat out Brittany Spears for best world artist at the MTV music awards~!!

Breaking Through Stereotypes Through Action, Not Discourse

If there's one thing I must say that is critical to the advancement of any ethnic minority group it is to take action. Nothing could possibly be more stifling to a community, regardless of being Asian, Black, Latino, etc. crying foul without taking, consistent physical action.

I blog from time to time on Destroy & Rebuild along with other Asian-related sites but importantly, I try to take action even at the expense of my ego, because I coddle "the self" way too much as it is. I don't think I'm the only one here either. I'm just the first to admit it. To outwardly say, "I admit defeat. I was wrong. I screwed up." is not as easy as it seems.

That's why when I see Asian-American guys like Asian Playboy who've managed to build an empire for himself while teaching Asian-American guys how to build confidence, it's inspiring. Other Asian bloggers out there can trash talk him all they want but the fact is, he has helped a lot of Asian-American men and built a nice business for himself in the process. Even if you discount one, you can't necessarily discount the other.

Albeit I've never been to a bootcamp of his, three of my friends have and they say it was one of the best experiences for them to grow as a person. Through the techniques they learned and deployed, one of them is dating, the other has a few women in rotation per week and I have learned through just watching them.

Scanning through my previous posts you'd probably think to yourself that the Game is BS. You either have it or you don't. Nothing could be further from the truth. I just never posted about my in-field successes. Allow me to digress for a moment. About a month ago I opened up two girls at a club and got some backup from my friend's girlfriend who served as wing woman. Next thing you know we had nine cute Asian-American chicks around us with all these guys (mainly White, few Asians) trying to pick them off because they were all attractive 8+'s. The one I was gaming was an 8.5. My friends kept telling me how hot she was considering A) she was very toned with a sexy face B) filled up a nice C-cup and C) a nice perky ass which made it even better when we started making out and rubbing up each other on the dance floor.

Two additional comments:

1. I LOVE plucking a woman's thong strap when things heat up. It stimulates them and show's you can be playfully aggressive.
2. Had there been some hot non-Asian girls I would've approached them as well, but I'm not going to talk to a girl just because of her ethnicity. She has to be hot first! If there was a hotter black or latina chick I would've opened her up instead.

Guys were approaching them left and right and they were getting blown out. These guys were taller. Some probably even better looking, but the point is you shouldn't be afraid of speaking to women. No matter how hot they are. At the end of the day they're not immortals who can take bullets and have them ricochet off the dome like some Marvel comic superhero. They're human beings like you and me. They have feelings and insecurities just like men do. Never forget that.

"I can't be racist. My wife is Asian."

Alright. How many times have I heard this one before from some racist asshole? Time to Ether these motherfuckers.

I'm sure you're all aware that the idiot at ESPN who wrote the "Chink in the Armor" headline on their website post Jeremy Lin's loss got canned along with a 30-day suspension of Max Bretos, the idiotic anchor who uttered the phrase. All Bretos had to do was say sorry and shut the fuck up. Pretty simple. Could've ended it there and everything would've been forgiven and forgotten. But instead, he had to open his stupid mouth and pull out the "I can't be racist. My wife is Asian" card.

Question. Do you think Asian-Americans are going to excuse your intentional or unintentional racist backhanded remark just because you've been fucking an Asian woman for a while now? Do you think you're winning points with the Asian-Ammerican community?

Newsflash Bretos. You and all the other non-Asian guys who go around claiming they cannot be racist because their wife is Asian or they're dating and sleeping with Asian women doesn't excuse you from being racist. It only magnifies it. It exposes your hidden agenda making you look like a complete jackass. Twice.

[Update. Found this blog and wanted to share this quote from another woman]

It seemed that he believed that insulting men who look like my grandfather is fine, because I’m a woman, the object of his desire.

I have come to the conclusion that there are plenty of racist White men who are quite happy to date, have sex with and even marry women of color because while they disdain men of color, they fetishize the women and enjoy them as they would an unusual flavor of ice-cream. Worse, many interracial relationships thrive on racist stereotypes and power dynamics. 

We see through the racist schemes guys like you play in trying to hold Asian-American men down. Now that an Asian-American male is finally getting the opportunity to shine and show off Alpha qualities garnering nationwide attention and fandom from females of all ethnicities, from all over, it's piles of shit like you who go around having to ruin a wonderful moment for a community that has been dealing with an onslaught of racism since they first stepped foot on American soil.

This is the same group of men who have been constantly viewed as an outsider since the 1800s when they were building the country's railroads. This is the same Asian-American community where mainstream media and entertainment, which you are an integral part of, has denied them the opportunity to portray the way they'd like America to see themselves in a realistic, non-stereotypical manner. Yet, Asian-American men are denied of their masculinity and made fun of because of their God given heritage.

Well, I hope you're very proud of yourself in being able to find the "chink in your armor" sitting at home with you. But I hope even more so that she leaves your ass for an Asian-American guy who's had to endure more harsh racism in a single basketball game than you've probably ever had to your entire life.

Jeremy Lin, Reinvents the Asian-American Male Image

[Update] Changed the title. I liked the phrase "soft bigotry of low expectations" but Timothy Dalrymple already claimed it in his blog. Sorry Tim!

Oh God not another post on Jeremy Lin?  Yes, and definitely not the last.

The guy was slept on for the longest time albeit several of us out there believed in him from his glory days at Harvard. You think he was slept on because race was a factor? That there were low expectations preconceived by soft bigotry in his physical appearance? No question.

Look, I've always been on the lookout for quality Asian-American role models who radically defy the stereotypes Asian-Americans, men especially, have had to endure since day one. Whether they're going around being reckless playboys, chief executives or transcendent athletes, I really don't care nor will I judge their moral code of conduct. As long as they don't wear the Asian-American stereotypical dress-code being a nerd, martial arts junkie, dorky fob or having zero Game then it's fine with me. In fact, there's actually nothing wrong with being any of those aforementioned types, but when it's the same old story that you see and hear everyday, everywhere in American mainstream media and entertainment, having to be constantly placed into one of those buckets starts to appear as if it's racially motivated.

I don't know about you, but I can guarantee there were at least several thousands of AA men who started to tear up or literally cry out of pride and joy. I'm not embarrassed to admit I was one of them. While watching him play the Lakers I could feel this sensation around the perimeter of my eyes as they were filling up with tears, ready to gush out at any moment's notice. As much as I tried to swallow them whole it was no use. I had already begun to ball. No pun intended. 

A letter from Tim Chiou guest starring on 2 Broke Girls

After the whole 2 Broke Girls alleged racism debacle, the producers of the show had a casting call for a "Hot Asian Guy" to star as a web designer where he and Caroline will have a thing for each other. Things are definitely going to heat up. Looks like Alpha Asian Gentleman Tim Chiou will be staring as Edwin cajoling Caroline even after hours at work. NICE.

I thought this was blog worthy so I decided to give him a shout out and ask him about the selection process and what this means for Asian-Americans. 

Hi MaSir,

Thanks for the shout out! Its been good to get a lot of buzz from the casting. I wish I could say something interesting about the selection process, but it was pretty straightforward. Just like any other audition I've had. To me, it was just your average day of work.

I know there has been some controversy surrounding 2 Broke Girls, and a lot has been made of what the existence of my role means, but at this time I am going to abstain from commenting on it. I think time will shed some more light as to what it all really means. But I will say that I went in there to do a job, and I just tried my best to do that job well. And I had a great time doing it. There are some very talented people working on that show, and I feel blessed to able to have the experience of working with them.

Again, thanks for the email. Hopefully, you'll watch the episode when it airs, and that people will ask for more Edwin! 

Cheers,

Tim

Hey, I'm all for it as long as he's not doing kung-fu, being nerdy or fobby. Keep Edwin on the show and make him a total player or a sweetheart who ends up getting engaged to Caroline. Just don't make him a stereotypical Asian male!

Jeremy Lin-spirational

Jeremy,

I'm pretty sure you're never going to visit my blog, because you're a wholesome guy who has much better things to do than to read this silly blog. Neverthless, I still want to give you a shout out and a bunch of props for your performance recently. It's not like you sucked and suddenly bursted on the scene. You just weren't given the opportunity to shine like the superstar you were always meant to be on the basketball court.

Since your days at Harvard I've been watching you always on the lookout for the latest and greatest Lin news. Thankfully, I didn't have to go searching on some AA blog to find you but instead easily find you on the the sports section's front page.

I hope your streak is just the beginning of many more praiseworthy games to come. Handle it!


MaSir

Why Men Prefer Asian Women. Part II

I don't need to say much.  The video is self explanatory.  Props to Girls Generation for being the first Korean group to every debut on a major American TV talkshow!

A Few Reasons Why Men Prefer Asian Women. Part I

The question often arises, "Why do men prefer dating Asian women?"

Whether it's asked out of sheer envy or morbid curiosity, men of all races have their laundry list of reasons. Well today I'm breaking it down for you. In fact, this is a subject area that a friend of mine and I have both explored, experienced and now firmly agree upon. It is what sets Asian women apart from females of other nationalities. Notice how I said "Asian women" as opposed to "Asian-American women". The difference may seem subtle but the "American" aspect has a significant influence on a woman's demeanor. Some positive, some negative. I am here to discuss the latter that can be attributed to American Feminism as the culprit for stripping away the cuteness and femininity that many men find so attractive in Asian women.

So let's start with cuteness first (I'll cover the other reasons in parts two and three of the series). I'm referring to what Koreans call aegyo -- a contemporary expression to describe cute and playful behavior derived from the word aegi meaning "baby" in Korean.

Here's an example of aegyo courtesy of the K-Pop group Kara.

[Update] Some of you may not know Korean. So here's a quick summary of the clip. Han Seung-Yeon from Kara who is wearing the red hat is very good with aegyo in public. Other members of the group struggle with this and attempt to show aegyo on the show. Notice the audience's reaction.

50 Female Phone Numbers. 48 Stale. Still Gaming

Shocking? Hardly.

I've gotten 50 numbers in the past several months after going out 3-4 times a week and I've only been able to meet up with two. These were all cold approaches at bars, lounges, clubs, bookstores, restaurants...you name it. And after all that, I was only able to achieve two 2nd dates after initial contact. That's a 4% success rate of getting a 2nd date and guess how many of those actually translated into something further.

Z-E-R-O.

And yet, I'm still pressing onward. I've gotten rejected just about every way possible:

"I have a boyfriend" 

"I usually don't give out my number to random people" 

"Please delete my number from you phone"

Or better yet, the frequent no response which makes you wonder why she gave you her number in the first place. In fact, I'm surprised I haven't turned into a complete asshole yet considering the amount of work I've been putting into this Game. As someone once told me, "Learning is painful."

Sure I've had my occasional make out sessions with women the same night but that doesn't mean crap if you don't end up going on a 2nd date. Women have no idea what it feels like to be rejected the way men do. It really fucking hurts sometimes. Hell, there's even been times where I've come close to crying. It takes a lot to overcome approach anxiety and once you do, there's still an uphill battle that requires you to withstand a woman's unresponsiveness to your calls, texts, emails, messages or any modes of communication.

One would think that after 48 stale numbers I should face reality that I suck at this Game and just throw in the towel.

Until I'm married, never that.

Asian Finger Bangin' B-Girl

I have to share this with you all because it's creatively brilliant.  Props to Ms. B-Girl DeeDee for holdin' her fingers down on the table top dance floor!

...And ya don't stop!!

The Slanted Screen: An Afterthought

I sent one of my friends Alpha-Asian's blog reposting of The Slanted Screen.  He replied with an interesting afterthought I'd like to share with my readers.

Thanks for sharing. 

I heard about this documentary a few years ago, but never got around to watching it. I think in some ways the progression of Asian-Americans in Hollywood was, and is, inevitable. AA's typically come from cultures that have stood the test of time. The values of these cultures - work ethic, frugality, patience, etc. - are still relevant and effective today. 

Of course, these values are only part of living a truly fulfilling life in America. The values of American culture that are typically missing from AA's are the ones that we aim to cultivate in the game--rebelliousness, bravado, sexuality, dominance, etc. It's already apparent to me that AA's are generally much more attractive now than 20 years ago. The prominence of AA's will continue to evolve; and I think this is a direct result of the work of our parents and grandparents. You need a foundation of survival before you can run off and game. I believe there will be a time when AA men will pull any type of woman just as easily (more passive game; less active game). Unfortunately for us, we're not there yet, so we've got to fight the current. 

Interestingly though, as with so many things in life, these perceptions shift dramatically from place to place. An asian girl I met yesterday pointed out that she didn't think I would be into her, because all the asian guys she knows only date white girls. Even my ex once commented she was surprised I was into her, because she just assumed (by my attitude and demeanor) that I only dated white girls.  And this is not the first time I've heard this.   

Science-fiction writer William Gibson once said, "The future is already here--it's just not evenly distributed." 

Sincerely

Gaming - Track 1: PRESS PLAY

"Enough about you dude. How about some stories from fellow comrades of yours?"

Glad you asked.  I've decided to post this story from one of my buddies who has learned the tricks of the trade. Though the story ends with him finishing at the 1 yard line as opposed to a touchdown. Nevertheless, it is still a fantastic story.


Others can suggest limitations for us. But only we can impose them ...

Two thousand something. Me to my then-girlfriend, Asian: "I promise myself, before I die I will bury my face between a white girl's legs."

Present day. I have buried my face between a white girl's legs.

And long legs they are -- she's 5-9 in bare feet, a former model who used to get paid to tan.

We met a couple hours earlier at a party thrown by a mutual acquaintance. She made an immediate impression when she entered -- tall, outgoing, with strong bone structure and a stylish haircut.

In the first few minutes after she arrived, she managed to reveal to the room that she spoke French and had modeled in Europe for a long time.

At some point later in the evening, I suddenly found her at my shoulder. She was beaming. And indirectly asking about my relationship status: "So you've got a girlfriend -- she couldn't make it?", or something else transparent like that.

I recognized the indication of interest for what it was and kept my cool. Not only did I answer in a non-needy way, I was brutally honest -- our relationship had gone through the wringer, my heart was broken and so on. But I made clear that the split was definite, that I wasn't pining over her.

She gave me a similar story of her own. We proceeded to banter for 10 or 15 minutes about nothing consequential. Truth be told, I wasn't keeping track of conversation threads. I was gauging her interest by disqualifying myself ("What do you do?" "I'm unemployed."), putting on mini-vacuums, eye coding elsewhere in the room and varying the openness of my body language. She double- and triple-checked on the subject of whether I had a girlfriend, probably to test my congruence.

I concluded that I wasn't being nearly as interesting as her behavior made me seem. All systems go.

We'd exchange numbers, at the very least. Or that's what I figured until I suddenly saw her in the foyer, bundled up and ready to leave. She hadn't said goodbye to me, hadn't even looked in my direction.

Maybe her buying temperature had dropped. Maybe she got cold feet. Or maybe the social pressure was too high.

Only one way to know for sure.

I gave her a 10-second head start out the door, then said my own goodbyes, bundled up and left.

I was expecting to catch up with her outside. But I made it down only one flight of steps before I heard her voice, a floor below me. She had stopped on the landing.

"Are you following me?" she asked, coyly.

"No," I said when I reached her. "Are you waiting for me?"

She laughed and turned to continue down the steps.

And she reached back for my hand.

Game on.

As soon as we got outside, she put her arm in mine. She announced that she was drunk and that she didn't know where we were going (translation: "Take advantage of me!"), and I said the same, along with, "Are you kidnapping me?" Role reversal.

I noticed through all this that she was walking with purpose. And so was I.

She questioned me again about following her, and I teased her for waiting. After a couple rounds of this, she made her intentions known:

"I think you're really attractive."

That was all I needed to hear. I stopped her in her tracks, pulled her close and kissed her, tongue and all. No pullback.

Just as quickly, I pushed her away and killed the momentum by introducing everyday topics -- biographical info and the weather, for instance. I dropped in "Where do you live"? -- that oldie-but-goodie. We continued walking, and I stopped her intermittently to kiss her again.

"Let's have one more drink," she said. She needed a little more coaxing, apparently.

We passed a couple blocks without seeing a bar. Then her request changed:

"Take me to the subway. I'm going home."

Buzz-kill. I decided that if we did find a station nearby, I would send her off by herself. I wasn't up for pumping her buying temperature under the glare of fluorescent lights, with a Greek chorus of bums watching. (It was past midnight.)

But another couple blocks went by, and no subway station. She admitted that she didn't know where we were.

I took that as my cue to hail a cab. When we got inside, I kept my mouth shut. We hadn't said where we were going, so whatever directions she gave to the cabbie would be the final sexual IOI I was looking for.

To her place, she said.

The making-out resumed. Mind you, I hadn't even broached the topics of sex or going to her place at this point. But that's not my style. Some guys are dominant and highly sexual; I happen to be safe and comforting.

I have no problem with building sexual tension. But I save the explicit talk until the threshold of no return.

Sun Tzu:

The rush of water, to the point of tossing rocks about. This is shih.
The strike of a hawk, at the killing snap. This is the node.
Therefore, one skilled at battle --
His shih is steep.
His node is short.

She let loose with assorted Anti-Slut Defense phrases as the cab drove: "This is crazy!" "I just met you!" "I don't even know you!"

I said in return, "I didn't know you existed before tonight." My meaning: I'm no better off than you in this situation, and I'm not responsible for assuaging your anxiety.

The ride wore on. She went to telling me how sexy she thought I was, how much she liked my hair (amid grabbing handfuls of it).

Then she said what had to be one of the most beautiful phrases I've ever heard from a woman:

"I have an Asian fetish."

And a little later:

"I'm taking you home with me."

At her place, she was quick to get me on the couch and start stripping the both of us, with the lights full on. This woman knew what she wanted and wasn't shy about it.

After our first, unsuccessful attempt at sex, we agreed to try again in the morning. But suddenly there she was, sitting on the couch dressed in her nightie, staring past me and speaking solemnly.

"You're going to leave now. We're not going to have sex in the morning. It'll be some other morning. I would prefer that."

I may have responded verbally to this. I don't remember.

What I do remember is picking her up, to peals of laughter, and cavemanning her into the bedroom.

Gaming: PRESS RESTART

My friends and I started picking up again. Yes, what some of you shun and call a scam I call fun!

It's a skill that I believe has been neglected by too many Asian-American men, because they're too busy becoming academically inclined instead of being socially inclined. That's not to say one shouldn't focus on college and their career path, but I believe that in order for Asian-American men to advance in a white and black American society they should master the Art of Socialization and Seduction. 

I refer to the both of these as an art because it follows the definition of what an artform is. When I think of the word "art" I associate it with the word "skill". There are two definitions of this word. According to Google art is defined as,

1. The expression or application of human creative skill and imagination, typically in a visual form such as painting or sculpture, producing works to be appreciated primarily for their beauty or emotional power.
2. Works produced by such skill and imagination.

If being able to talk to beautiful and even not so beautiful women were so easy, then why wouldn't everyone be doing it?

Plain and simply put, it's probably one of the most challenging things a man will ever do in his entire life. And in order for something to become a skill, it takes PRACTICE. That is what the Game is about. Being able to attract a woman because you're of a certain ethnic background, height, etc is not Game. It's more luck than anything and doesn't require any skill. Having a non-Asian girl attracted to you because she "likes Asian guys" doesn't require any skill just like a white guy who gets an Asian girl who "only dates White guys". What skill did you develop and perfect to become an Asian? Oh that's right, you didn't because you were born with it. In fact, you spent more time honing your SAT skills back in high school than anything else (Btw, there's nothing wrong with this either...just an example of what I mean by developing a skill. You should be focusing on your studies as a student. Don't misconstrue my point).

When you first start off doing some sort of art, it's very unnatural or robotic. As you continue your journey whether it be involving martial arts (see previous post LOL), dancing or even something stereotypical such as programming, you gradually become fluent in that artform. It is at that inflection point where people begin to characterize you as "a natural" when in fact several years ago you might have been socially inept. There are very few of us out there who are innately social creatures with the ability to socially navigate through a circle of strangers. Its daunting and in some cases terrifying. However, I've become inspired by my close friends who are all on a mission to do something bigger and better for not only themselves individually but also to the Asian-American male community as a whole.

I know for a fact that my fellow Asian brothers and I shocked everyone in the club in SoCal this weekend when people saw two Asian guys Gaming some of the hottest White, Asian, Black and Latinas in the club. And it ain't hard to tell when you see out of the corner of your eye that everyone is looking at you, because you're making out with an attractive caucasian women who is taller than you on the dancefloor!

Time to press restart and Game on.

My Only Asian Boy

Wow. I find this racist, hilarious, hot, lame and totally from the 80s. I can't help but laugh. The stereotypical Chinese tunes, the reference to Asian as "Orientals" and the "Karate Chop" punchline.

After seeing the east and seeing the west, she wants to find the guy that she likes best. This girl only wants the Asian dick. 

Looking Past Colorlines

Diane Farr posted an article on CNN yesterday regarding interracial dating I thought I'd share with everyone here with this excerpt in particular.

Pronunciation aside, it hadn't occurred to me that Seung and I made a mismatched couple. Mixed-race yes, but I couldn't fathom that my race could make me the "wrong kind of girl" for anyone.

Yes, it was white privilege that blinded me to the fact I might be the bottom of the barrel on someone else's race card.

Who would've thought "white privilege" would become disadvantageous when dealing with Asian parents? I know a lot of Asian moms who would be clamoring to get their hands on that sort of setup, but this is where the tradition and attachment to culture overrides any kind of privilege. Now if Diane were the daughter of Bill Gates maybe that'd be a different story.

Marrying or even dating someone who is culturally distant from you can be an herculean challenge that takes work. A lot of work. Getting a beautiful girl's number, taking her out on a date...heck...even sleeping with her can be a walk in the park compared to going up against Asian filial piety forces. In fact, it doesn't even need to be exclusive to ethnicity. Would it be any less challenging for someone to explain to their parents how they should accept their significant other from the housing projects when they were born and raised in The Hamptons their entire life?

Man up fellas. It's Game time, not Lame time.

Just read a post from a female reader who visited my blog (and frankly, I'm pretty curious as to who it is so if you happen to be reading this, feel free to shoot me a message).

So the point of my little post here? Asian men, stop complaining and ask us out! You may get shot down, but man up and just do it! We Asian girls want to go out with you! We don't reject you nearly as often as we reject every other race!!! This whole dating game is just a numbers racket. The more girls you ask out the more you'll eventually go out with!! 

There you have it fellas. An attractive Asian-American woman who's got your back. Now it's time for you to execute. And if you can't or don't have the balls to do so, then I highly suggest you seek some professional consulting. Speaking of which, one of my colleagues is attending Asian Playboy's ABC's of Attraction bootcamp this weekend and it happens to be his 2nd time. He's progressed quite a bit since his first bootcamp experience 3 years ago, but now he's taking his Game to the next level. Now mind you, this guy is intelligent, upper middle class, sociable and does quite well with the ladies and even he is willing to go the extra mile to improve his Game. Meanwhile there are a lot of AA guys I see out there who aren't owning up to the fact that they are ultimately responsible for their own misery.

So, if anyone would like to send me a personal success story of a recent pickup encounter, please email it  to me and I will gladly post it on my blog in order to highlight and commend you on your accomplishment.

Asian Fetish or White Fetish. Which is it?

Here's a post I saw on Craigslist in light of the recent debate over interracial dating. I think the person who posted this comment raises a valid yet understated point because the focus has been so one-sided where white men are constantly being harshly accused of having Asian fetishes. But, isn't it the other way around? These guys thinks so.

Being a Caucasian man, I've heard the phrase, "Asian fetish," used a lot these days. It seems that everywhere I look, there are white men with Asian girlfriends and wives. I don't know exactly what the official interracial dating statistics would show, but my guess would be that the Caucasian male coupling with an Asian female is probably the most common interracial relationship in America. I have to admit, that I too am attracted to Asian women, but in my defense, I find women of all races to be attractive, and I have never found myself to be zeroing in only on Asian women.

I have to admit too, that I too am attracted to women of all races. They just need to be physically attractive. As long as there's a physical intrigue, my penis sees no color lines or racial barriers. 

In a recent conversation that I had with an Asian female, in my place of work, this young woman wanted to show me a dating site that she had been looking into. She wanted my opinion on some of the perspective bachelors that she had been reading about. One of the bachelors had a picture of himself posing with what appeared to be an ex-Asian girlfriend. The first thing out her mouth when she saw the picture of the young Caucasian man with an Asian woman, was that this young Caucasian man obviously has an "Asian fetish." She rejected this particular bachelor for what appeared to be a white guy, with an Asian fetish.

In my opinion, my Asian female colleague was jumping to conclusions about the bachelor pictured with an Asian girlfriend. An Asian fetish, in my book, would constitute a Caucasian man that only dated Asian women. The conclusion of an Asian fetish cannot be drawn from just one photo, in a man's dating profile. Asian fetish aside, if a person is going to create a profile on a dating site, posting pictures of yourself with an ex-girlfriend, or an ex-boyfriend, is not a good idea.

My Asian colleague continued to show me pictures and profiles of other perspective bachelors on the dating site, and one fact really began to stand out to me. Every perspective profile that she had chosen was that of a Caucasian male. It became very evident that my young Asian female co-worker definitely has a Caucasian male fetish. As the saying goes, my Asian co-worker is the pot calling the kettle black. 

Another white guy agrees with the previous poster by adding his own personal experience to the mix.

I agree that many of the Asian female-white male pairings are a result of the asian females having a white male 'fetish', not the opposite. My ex-girlfriend (asian-american) only dated white dudes. Many, like her, claim that they are open to all dating all races, but their standards for other races are so high, while the standards for whites are so low, that de facto, only the white dudes stand a chance. Just look around at many of the pairings you see. It's clearly the white guys who are on the winning side of these pairings. Therefore, how can you blame the white guys for seeking out asian women. If you can easily get an asian woman who should be out of your league vs. having to bust your ass to score with a less attractive female of another race, most guys will take the easy path. It's in our nature. 

Case in point. What guy, regardless of race or nationality, wouldn't want to take the least path of resistance in the dating game? Can't hate on that. He continues...

And, I don't think that Asian American women are much different from other American women. They are not meek or subservient, just ask their husbands/boyfriends. White women are just bitter that they are being passed up and are lashing out in jealousy. All women subconsciously seek men of status and white men clearly have the highest status in the US, although in certain US subcultures that may not be the case (a whole other discussion). Asians are just more attune to the race/status correlation since being a minority makes you more conscioulsy aware of it and theirs is more of a white-washed culture. I don't see white women being that open to dating non-whites either. Again, they are 'open' to it but the standards are different depending on the race, e.g. a asian dude better be exceptional to have a shot. 

Recall Freakonomics if you forgot. Men of Asian ethnicity must make 250K more on average for a white woman to consider dating them, which means what? Yes, Asian-American men do need to be exceptional. YES, exceptional and I'm trying to take a positive spin on this. Just like how AA men were taught by their first generation parents on how to be in school, AA men need to be exceptional in the dating Game as well. That means get your shit together. Get some money, get some style and execute in the field. Being exceptional should not be exclusive to education and career development but akin to all other facets of life. There's nothing wrong with striving for excellence.

Just checking in...

I thought I'd check in to see how my blog is doing since I've walked away from it for awhile.  Perhaps, I'm not the only one who's been busy doing things outside of blogging Asian-American issues but it seems to be a trend. Frankly, I'm quite glad to see this happening as well. That means many of us are moving past these topics and progressing on to bigger and better things like pursuing our careers goals or accomplishing personal projects. Yes, the things that create value for us besides bickering about political and social issues entailing the Asian-American population.

There still has been a lot of back-and-forth arguing about interracial relationships based on a blog I published a while back. I never expected so many readers to come across such an old post of mine to battle it out, but I guess its still an ongoing debate. Some speak of how the posters here are against miscegenation and bigoted. I completely disagree. 

Look, I'm not against interracial relationships and I doubt anyone in this day in age staunchly rejects the notion of two people from different racial backgrounds getting involved with one another. Not to be flippant, that was never the argument. The argument stems from the imbalance of AMs in entertainment and the dating scene. That's it. 

What's surprising for me is that I'm no longer bothered by this issue, simply because I am confident enough to date beautiful women of any ethnicity. I'm spending less time blogging about it and actually doing it instead which is much more fulfilling. And as much as I love my Asian-American sistas, she doesn't even have to be. All she has to be is a beautiful person who is R-E-A-L. 

What do I mean by R-E-A-L? I mean, if you're superficial who places high value on exterior appearances and has an affinity for expensive paraphernalia, then don't pretend like you don't.  There's no point to claim not to be "like one of those girls" because your personality will reveal itself in the end regardless of how hard you try to conceal it. I, along with many others, will have much more respect for you as a person if you expose the truth than to characterize your personality as being that of a tree-hugger when you're obviously not. 

Asian Male Picking Up in REAL time

I came across this clip on YouTube today which I wanted to share with all of my Asian brethren.  I'm not really into the Game anymore but I still like to play once in a while.

Let this be a testament that you are not helpless with the ladies.  It's a Game.  You have to practice and hustle if you want to breakthrough the limiting self-belief that you can't date a hot chick.

Response to UCLA White Girl On Asian Rant

There's been an onslaught of critical responses toward Alexandra Wallace's racist diatribe toward Asian students at UCLA. My cohort is the one who actually informed me of her YouTube video bashing Asians and how the rant went viral. When I heard first the news I became a bit angry since I thought it was going to be extremely condescending and blatantly racist. Before making any rash judgments though I had to watch it for myself, and after viewing the Wallace's clip I must say that her statements aren't completely wrong.

Could she have softened up the tone? Yes. Could she have omitted the mocking of Asians with her, "Ching Chong Ting Tong" comment? Abso-fucking-lutely. In fact, that line is what pissed me off more than anything, because I grew up having to listen to that and thought people in the 21st century would have changed the way they hear Asian languages due to globalization, the Internet, tolerance and understanding. Well it looks I was wrong.

Now I have to concur that Asians are spoiled a little too much by mom and dad. Does that make it a bad thing? Yes and no. I'm not going to get into that debate now but it is true. Secondly, I have also experienced Asians talking on their cell phones in the library which is also annoying as hell because its a LIBRARY, not a coffee shop! Let's not forget it's not just Asians who talk on their cell phones in the library though. I've seen plenty of other people of different ethnic backgrounds yapping away on their phones which could simply be a function of the Asian population majority at UCLA who coincidentally are answering and making calls in the library.

My point is, I am not angry at Alexandra. Additionally, I'm hoping she's not a bigot and want to give her the benefit of the doubt that she was simply stressed out from cramming for finals and needed to vent. The best response I've seen to her video post is the one below.




After watching her response it put a lot of things into perspective for me. Here I am complaining about a bunch of useless crap going on in my life, meanwhile the people of Japan are in shambles after a devastating 8.9 earthquake + tsunami utterly destroyed a community of people and is on the verge of nuclear meltdown. I want to say thanks to sunah17. I commend your response in taking an unfortunate racialized situation and turning it into something positive for all of us to watch.