I never thought another female would serve as an even bigger obstacle than another guy when trying to game a girl with a group of her female friends in a night time venue.
A couple weekends ago I was out with one of my buddies hitting up a bunch of different bars and clubs in the city. He's been single for a while now trying to get back in the game so I figured I'd be his wing for the evening. I played defense for him several times which gave him the opportunity to isolate his target and get a phone number at the very least. However, it made me realize how difficult it is to be successful if you don't have the support of your friends when there's an additional female player in the mix. This isn't to say you cannot be successful gaming in solitude such as Asian Playboy and Mystery have proven time and time again, but having someone there to play "D" is pretty valuable when you have Cock Blockers and Cunt Punters hindering your chances.
And now, I don't know what's worse. I feel like women who've punted me or my friends are more challenging to deal with because I have to gain their trust. Its tough enough as it is to gain the trust of one female, but her friends too? Yikes! Most guys are pretty cool with opening up and socializing with you, but women find every guy threatening. Its really weird. Is there a jealousy factor involved? I don't know.
So my friend tried hitting on one of these girls that night. She gave him the cold shoulder. Well just like Aaliyah said, "If first you don't succeed, dust yourself on try again." Sure enough, he did on the dance floor and she reciprocated. Meanwhile watching from a distance, some crazy girl came up to me and kept insisting that I "break her off". You know. . . those crazy girls that want to dance with you to every song like it's playing 120 BPMs.
That's when I saw the Punt. Her friend jumped in after one minute and immediately pulled her back. Damn it! I got distracted with this crazy and let him lose one of the best looking girls in the joint. By the time I told her "Thanks but I have to go check up on my friend", both of the other girls left. Sad thing is, I believe this happens all too often.
Let me rewind back to early 2007. I'm at this yuppy restaurant /lounge/club down in Santana Row in San Jose by myself (yes, while on business trips I used to roll solo to a lot of night time venues to work on my game). After coming out of the restroom, I headed on over to the bar when I made eye contact with this pretty hot Asian girl. She stopped me, placed her hand on my wrist and asked if I were Vietnamese. Random, I know. I replied, "No. Would you like me to be?" and smiled. Her other Asian girlfriend pulled her away like I was some disgusting freak of nature. So here I am, standing alone wondering why in the world her friend pulled her away when she is obviously interested (or super inebriated). I took a step back and went up to the bar to buy a drink only to find the two of them on the dance floor a couple minutes later. "Fuck this. I'm going to dance with this girl. I know she's into me", I hear my internal voice whispering.
Standing with a military posture, I sauntered over to the floor making solid eye contact with her and followed up with a sly grin. She responded and we were off. After the 3rd song I decided to go in a little closer and our bodies started touching. I asked her what this strap was doing around her waist while snapping it. It was obviously her throng strap. She laughed and pushed her ass against me harder.
Suddenly her Cunt Punting friend came in and yanked her away from me once again to go dance with these two white guys. I don't want to say it was because I wasn't white. Who knows? Maybe it was, maybe it wasn't.
What confuses me is why women do this to begin with. Do women really believe that the majority of men in bars and clubs are creepy? I would never automatically dismiss a female as being a hoe just because she goes clubbing. Maybe I'm just a creepy looking guy. Whatever the reason may be, I learned one important lesson that I was reminded of a few weekends back.
- Win the trust of her friends ASAP
- Have a wingman to play defense
Or prepare yourself to get blown out. Women are bigger punters than men are blockers.
