Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Time Magazine's way of celebrating Valentine's Day

When I see articles such as this one from Time magazine, I'm not sure what the hell they're trying to accomplish.
This Valentine's Day, more of us than ever will be looking for love online. And if recent studies are any guide, relatively few women on mainstream dating sites will bother to respond to overtures from men of Asian descent. Likewise, black women will be disproportionately snubbed by men of all races. Yes, even though America has been flirting intensely with a postracial label for some time, color blindness is not upheld as an ideal in the realm of online romance.
Yes, its no surprise many women on mainstream dating sites won't bother responding to Asian-American men and black women. 2nd-rate journalists such as this one think they're being the "good guy" by exposing this imbalance in the world of online dating. My question for them is, "What's your fucking point?"

Newsflash ignoramuses.  This ain't news and its not exclusive to online dating either.

I have a better idea for mainstream media reporters and journalists. Instead of publishing meretricious articles of the already well-known interracial dating disparities, how about uncovering the plausible root causes of this imbalance?  If you need help, I can even point you in the right direction. Start your investigation by examining your own industry and how it perpetually desexualizes Asian-American men while incessantly promoting WM/AF couples.


  1. Is it just me, or does it seem as if white people are usually completely ignorant about certain racist things that people of color have been speaking out about for some time?

    BTW, the author later goes on to dismiss the notion of racism by claiming that it's simple, innocuous "preference." That's also pretty common: dismissing racism by using a racism "expert" who just happens to be white.

    For anyone who doesn't know, the line between preference and racism involves two aspects: whether or not it is irrational, and whether or not it is pervasive and systematic. The first is obvious. The second is often overlooked. Random discrimination would just be diversity of preference. However, in order for that to occur, white men would have to be discriminated against just as often as Asian men. Obviously, that is not happening. Therefore, it is racism and not just simple preference.

  2. Hi, thanks for reading my blog. I know a few Asian men who are dating or married to white women. Maybe that's because they dated me at one point and I turned them off to Asian women forever. ;)

  3. I find it ironic that you criticize a news outlet for emphasizing the same points you do. Many of the articles on this blog are about how Asian men have trouble dating in the U.S. If you don't like others to focus on it, then why do you?

  4. Ahhh jstele. How I've missed you so!

    I think you've missed the spirit of my post. The focus on the subject matter is already well known. My argument is that it could be better by zeroing in on possible root causes beginning with the media-entertainment complex.

    That is my argument.

  5. It's just a fluffy article. Not everything has to be a sociological analysis of race in America.

  6. They do this every couple of months, just like anti-Chinese article every few weeks. This is to implant into the public perception that Asian men and Black women are losers of society or that the Chinese are evil people.

    Psychological operation has gone mainstream.

  7. Yes. And now the time has come for us to destroy the mainstream portrayal of Asian-American men as undesirable creatures and rebuild our image as normal American men.

    Forgive me if I've been coming across negatively. Much of it is from releasing a decade's worth of pent up frustration, but I do see change taking place and further changes coming down the line in the near future for both Asian-American genders.

    Yes, we make bomb ass lovers, married couples, actors, entertainers, singers, dancers and athletes.

    These will not be overlooked and I will definitely highlight them much more moving forward.

  8. Asian men and black women should team up and fuck up the system that shits on us!

  9. The Time article is basically a takeoff on a OkCupid blog article and the stats they presented, which I commented on here:



    While the situation for Asian men are not good, the stats on OkCupid are not objective and biased to make Asian men and blacks appear worse than things really are.

    As I argued, it reflects a self-selected group of minorities that are first and foremost seeking white partners. This is also the reason why among other things, minorities on OkCupid appear to be far more open to interracial relationships compared to whites.

    If you're Asian, for instance, and you're seeking a white partner, then OkCupid is an ideal site to sign up with. But if you're seeking other Asians, then it's one of the worst places you can go and with plenty of ethnic-specific dating sites available on the web, there's no reason to sign up with a white-majority site like OkCupid unless your preference is white.

    Outside of all that, some of the other interestings tidbits for me were:

    - Asian men had the 2nd best matching scores with women overall (and also 2nd best with white women) behind white males. (So, if stereotypes and other issues weren't an issue, Asian men "should" be 2nd more desirable among all men)

    - Asian women had the LOWEST matching scores among all women.

    - Asian men and Asian women matched together with just average scores, but for Asian women, "average" was the best one could do. They basically have average scores with everyone.

    But again, these numbers arguably reflect Asians who primarily seek white partners and does not reflect the general Asian American population.

  10. HoneyCoveredEggrollAugust 5, 2010 at 12:18 AM

    I highly suspect that the suspected racists that run the media has no interest in promoting change nor working for justice for nonwhite people. I wonder do they get joy out of reporting our pain while they benefit from our suffering? I wouldn't doubt it because they keep doing it over and over and over again.


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