Tuesday, February 21, 2012

"I can't be racist. My wife is Asian."

Alright. How many times have I heard this one before from some racist asshole? Time to Ether these motherfuckers.

I'm sure you're all aware that the idiot at ESPN who wrote the "Chink in the Armor" headline on their website post Jeremy Lin's loss got canned along with a 30-day suspension of Max Bretos, the idiotic anchor who uttered the phrase. All Bretos had to do was say sorry and shut the fuck up. Pretty simple. Could've ended it there and everything would've been forgiven and forgotten. But instead, he had to open his stupid mouth and pull out the "I can't be racist. My wife is Asian" card.

Question. Do you think Asian-Americans are going to excuse your intentional or unintentional racist backhanded remark just because you've been fucking an Asian woman for a while now? Do you think you're winning points with the Asian-Ammerican community?

Newsflash Bretos. You and all the other non-Asian guys who go around claiming they cannot be racist because their wife is Asian or they're dating and sleeping with Asian women doesn't excuse you from being racist. It only magnifies it. It exposes your hidden agenda making you look like a complete jackass. Twice.

[Update. Found this blog and wanted to share this quote from another woman]
It seemed that he believed that insulting men who look like my grandfather is fine, because I’m a woman, the object of his desire.

I have come to the conclusion that there are plenty of racist White men who are quite happy to date, have sex with and even marry women of color because while they disdain men of color, they fetishize the women and enjoy them as they would an unusual flavor of ice-cream. Worse, many interracial relationships thrive on racist stereotypes and power dynamics. 
We see through the racist schemes guys like you play in trying to hold Asian-American men down. Now that an Asian-American male is finally getting the opportunity to shine and show off Alpha qualities garnering nationwide attention and fandom from females of all ethnicities, from all over, it's piles of shit like you who go around having to ruin a wonderful moment for a community that has been dealing with an onslaught of racism since they first stepped foot on American soil.

This is the same group of men who have been constantly viewed as an outsider since the 1800s when they were building the country's railroads. This is the same Asian-American community where mainstream media and entertainment, which you are an integral part of, has denied them the opportunity to portray the way they'd like America to see themselves in a realistic, non-stereotypical manner. Yet, Asian-American men are denied of their masculinity and made fun of because of their God given heritage.

Well, I hope you're very proud of yourself in being able to find the "chink in your armor" sitting at home with you. But I hope even more so that she leaves your ass for an Asian-American guy who's had to endure more harsh racism in a single basketball game than you've probably ever had to your entire life.


  1. I have had many men come up to me (a eurasian woman who's looks visibly asian)who not only think it's okay to denigrate Asian to me, but who also assume I'm going to be super impressed by it....and are totally shocked when I call them out on their behavior. (Many then accuse me of being "overly westernised", how it's a shame etc...for defending men of my racial background, for defending the men who can understand my experiences as an Asian in a racist north america)I don't know what it is but I think White men who "have a thing for" Asian women tend to be some of the most racist people I've ever had the misfortune of encountering, whether it be in a real life or online setting. Both racist towards Asian men and all other poc.

    thank you for writing this post.

    1. Wow. Likewise, I'd like to thank you for posting your comment. Granted, not all white guys who date Asian girls behave this way, but to both of our shared points, yes, White men who have this proclivity toward Asian women are racist toward Asian men more often than not.

      Please feel free to share my post. Would love to get more comments from women of different ethnicities and their experiences with this kind of racism.

    2. sorry for not getting back to you sooner. I don't have a blog but I'd be more than happy to share this with some people I know in real life.

      Take care!

  2. Hey, thanks for writing this post and quoting me. I agree with commenter who talked about the experience of White men feeling it's OK/impressive to denigrate men who share her ethnicity.


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