Monday, January 28, 2013

WongFu Reminds Us Why It's So Important To Approach A Girl In Under 3 Seconds

Have you ever heard of the 3 second rule when it comes to approaching a woman you're interested in? For those of you who haven't, the rule is basically this. If you notice a girl you find attractive and want to talk to, you should do it in under 3 seconds the moment you see her. As WongFu Productions little short "This is how we never met" illustrates, the longer you wait to think of something to say before you just go up and talk to her, the more likely it is that you won't do it.

Here are my reasons. What are yours?
  1. You might overanalyze. Trying to either think of something witty or original can lead to paralysis analysis. Next thing you know 30 seconds of deep thought turns into 5 minutes with you unconsciously making eye contact with her. Now she knows you're interested and by the time you talk to her, she's got the upper hand. "Oh gosh...could he be anymore obvious?"
  2. You run the risk of looking creepy. The longer you wait and just look, you also run the risk of leaving it up to her imagination to come to negative conclusions about you, and the last thing you want is her to categorize you as a "creeper".
  3. You might chicken out. I've done this several times. Though not as frequently as when I first got the balls to talk to women, there were countless times where I didn't do shit. I would either overanalyze or fear rejection, only to come home kicking myself for not saying anything. 
What felt even worse was when there was another guy who'd swoop in and take her away because I took too long, missing a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity since I acted like a little [fill in the blank]. 

The point is this. The second your eyes shift and make even the most ever so subtle eye contact with a her, she knows you are interested. Trust. Women are very observant. They can detect the slightest eye movement that signals you're interested in her, even if it's just a quick glance when you're not even directly in her light of sight. And if you so dare to think you're not being obvious, don't worry, you are.

So if that's the case, you might as well just go up and say "hello" and not end up like the guy the video.

1 comment:

  1. LOL. I think every guy is guilty of this.


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